No matter where you go or what you do in life, there will always be someone who will be offended or disgusted. Polyamory is no exception. I’ve come across a few ‘polyphobes’ in my time, and most of the time it doesn’t even bother me. In fact, closed-mindedness and unfounded anger tends to make me laugh.
But there’s one thing I just don’t get, and that’s how someone could be pro-gay and anti-poly.
JUST HOW. THE HYPOCRISY BLOWS MY MIND.
This isn’t just me venting about one dumb argument I had with someone, by the way. Out of all the polyphobes I’ve met, MOST of them were also pro-gay. It’s made me realise that when people say they are pro-equality, many actually just mean they are pro-whateveriscooltosupportatthemoment. It saddens me to think that ‘gay’ is just one more label that’s becoming accepted, rather than people themselves becoming more accepting.
The arguments I hear are the same that people use when comparing interracial marriage and gay marriage. “BUT IT’S DIFFERENT!!11”. Yeah… I guess it is a bit different, but it still doesn’t concern you. So um… kindly fuck off? Thanks.
God, just when you think you know someone, you find out they’ve been lying to you the whole time. Turns out Aidan was just using me to get to Ashley.
I always new Ash was bisexual, but I never would have guessed Aidan was actually gay. I honestly didn’t suspect a thing. Out of the blue last night, the boys broke the news to me. They sat me down and said ‘we need to talk.’ At first I thought they were being silly. But as I listened on I knew it was all true. The signs were there, I just didn’t pick them up. All those times they blew me off to ‘play games together’…. All those dinners out where I was unknowingly the third wheel.
It’s funny, at first I was excited. I thought, ‘wow, we can have a delta triad where we all love each other!’. But it wasn’t long before it hit me. They didn’t want me to be apart of their new relationship.
Oh, come on. I didn’t really trick you did I? Don’t you know what the date is today? Also, in reality the boys are both straight as an arrow… thought I should clear that up!
Ash, Aidan and I live in a small but slowly developing town called Hobart. It’s at the bottom of the world, quite literally. If you look at a map of Australia, you’ll notice Tasmania, the little triangle-shaped island south of the mainland. Almost at the very bottom of this island is Hobart. It’s a beautiful place and there are lots of great things about living here.
But one of the best things is that Tasmania is full of hippies progressive people. While not legalised yet, gay marriage is widely supported. It’s culturally diverse and everywhere you go there’s art, community projects and good food and wine. Being the place that it is, Hobart is a pretty damn convenient place to find yourself as a polyamorous person.
Don‘t get me wrong, we do get some weird looks when we walk down the street hand-in-hand-in-hand. Polyamory is only just starting to come into the public eye, and a lot of people still don’t even know what it is. But for the most part, the residents here are pretty relaxed and easy going, and I like to think that’s not just because they’re all high on weed.
‘Coming out’ to our friends and family was actually pretty easy. Aside from a couple of people who were worried I was taking advantage of Ash, the news was quite well received. But I’m leaving the details of that story for another post :)